Are you that type of person?
If you are the one who is constantly thinking your partner is cheating you, and that there is a third one constantly between you and the person you love; then you are taking your relationship to another level: to a toxic level. This means, you are creating a constant unhealthy Habit!
You are constantly anticipating to the problems; you are constantly anticipating a posible answer. You may have a really low self esteem. Watch out: this manners, may encourage –unfortunately- the fact that you´ll take the things physical. This means the conflict you are suffering from the inside, may go out drastically one day… something we don´t really want to happen. Psychological help may be really useful in order to overcome these Little lies you are putting into your path in order to boycott you and the ones you love.
In addition, if this toxic factor is the one that holds, sticks, your relation with someone else, then, you should be considering again what love means: love means wishing the best to the other person, trusting what the other says, wishing the best kind of freedom. This toxic way, is really tiring and exhausting… you should be living in a different way; in peace with yourself.
But, first, in order to find your internal peace. What should you do? Prove yourself that you can be alone with yourself, proving yourself that you can accept personal challenges and overcome them. This way you are going to stop taking everything as a competition with the others (thus, your partner or that imaginary third in discord).
Here are some tips:
1- Start a new sport: this activity will help you to be in another place physically and mentally. Preferably a sport with strong activity.
2- To counter the first tip, start a Mindfulness, psychological or yoga. This will help ypu to complement the sports activities you are doing.
3- Take a break: whenever you start having that jealousy episode, go far away, using tips learnt in the previous steps.
4- If your partner is trying to make you jealous: quit hi mor her immediately, because he or she is feeding your toxic manners. A never ending stroy is never good. Not cool at all. What´s more, if you have already achieved the fact of getting with yourself completely alone, the percentages of finding someone new, are really high! Why? Because everyone loves confident people.
Now buy some cool kicks and start the path: Find your way, and find yourself!